Photo by Sarah Gualtieri
Self-care is important for everyone. As a mom, during the months I had newborns I completely neglected myself because I had a little human I needed to give my all to. In my mind, I thought if I didn’t give every ounce of myself, that I was being selfish.
My whole reason for existing was to make sure I was producing milk which meant I had to eat a lot more and drink so much water. I took supplements that had me smelling like maple syrup and drank tea 3 times a day to help my milk supply.
Now, I know that’s not the case. But when you have out-of-whack hormones and you’re trying to survive being sleep deprived, you’ll believe that. It might not be for everyone, but It was for me.
I also often felt guilty if I didn’t spend a certain amount of time with my second baby girl as I did with my first. I’m crazy… I know! But someone out there has felt the same way I have. I’m not the only one.
Believe me when I say; that after you have a baby or babies the only self-care you want is sleep. Once my little ones got older and didn’t require so much of my attention, I had to slowly learn to practice self-care. I got better my second time around, but It was still challenging.
I want to make sure that anyone who reads this knows that self-care is personal. My style won’t be yours. Whatever YOU feel yours is, you do that. It doesn’t have to mean wearing makeup or working out. It could be reading books, listening to music or galavanting the aisles at Target.
HOW I GET MY SELF CARE ROUTINE IN FOR THE DAY
The first thing I like to do is wakeup and show gratitude. I’m a firm believer that knowing I’m blessed (or Lucky) to wake up and see another day isn’t promised. This takes me 5 minutes because, after that, I’m getting up to help my first daughter get ready for school.
Second, I make myself some Green Tea or something to drink before I start my day. It typically isn’t always coffee but that’s probably my second drink.
As I’m waking up, I immediately put on my workout clothes. This has been a tip I’ve used for years. Even If I don’t feel like I’m going to work-out, I put them on.
Then? You guessed it! Make breakfast for my Toddler and while she’s eating I’ll start a workout. Do I stop in the middle of those workouts? Absolutely! But I get right back in there. I aim for 30 minutes… If I can get 60 minutes in, that’s a treat for me.
once I’m done with that, I’ll start lunch and have a protein shake. When it’s nap time for my little one, I’ll make sure she is secure in her bed and take a shower. Is the bathroom door open while said shower is happening? uh… yes! Sometimes I think I’m hearing my babies calling me while showering. Is that. weird?
This is all happening along with getting content to my clients that I work with and brands that I’m working with. Sometimes, I’m shooting two campaigns because that’s usually how it happens and I always try to make it before deadlines.
By this time, the little one is waking up from her hour nap and it’s time for lunch. While one hand is feeding, the other is editing and reviewing the footage along with the cleaning. I find that also therapeutic for me. Organizing and cleaning are great for me too.
I find working self-care because it’s what I love to do and It’s satisfying to be able to create and work from home when I’m not on location with clients.
After all of that, I’ll usually get ready to get my firstborn from school and start dinner for the family.
Bedtime is great because I have my husband watch the girls while I shower and start my bedtime skincare routine. (updated routine coming to my YouTube channel soon! Subscribe!)
It’s my time to relax and it’s very important to me. My husband knows it and gives me the time I need because I feel amazing when I’m slathering on products.
Once I get my girls down for bed, I’ll take the time to read and reflect on the day. What I felt like I could do better and what I’ll keep. Set-up my planner for the next day (I love doing that too) and It’s bedtime by then.
Although I get these moments in-between other tasks, I do try to fit them in. Sometimes even scheduling it in my planner helps!